A personal experience with false memory syndromeLet it be said at the beginning that I am an individual existing in a multiple system, and that I do not believe multiplicity is a therapeutic artifact, for ours is not; we have never been in therapy. Let it be said at the beginning that I despise the False Memory Syndrome Foundation and everything they stand for, because they are exploiting people who have experienced false memories, and they are exploiting many more people whose memories are true.
False memory syndrome is not something that is limited to a therapeutic milieu. It is a type of folie a deux in which one person gives up control, power and authority to another. It is, at heart, a type of B&D scening.
Having personally experienced FMS, I can say publicly that it is a sort of
agreed-upon story that one lives as if it were fact. One can give oneself
FMS by means of reading or watching films and intensely taking to heart the
information presented. However, it is generally easier if there are at
least two participants, one the recipient of said memories, the other
providing and reinforcing them. It need not be a therapist-client
relationship. Let's call'em A and B.
In creating and maintaining false memories, it is assumed that B has
knowledge of events in A's life of which A is unaware but takes B's word
for it. As the narrative progresses, A is encouraged to form clear mental
images of the events described or suggested by B, and to regard any related
image or concept that spontaneously comes to mind as a memory. It helps if
A believes he stands to gain something from close association with B and
'reclaiming' his memories; the goal could be improved mental health, a
better understanding of one's past reincarnations, enhanced psychic
ability, or simply a more intimate relationship with B.
The keys to a successful false-memory scenario are; denial of discrepancies
in the narrative, denial or rewriting of one's actual memories, and a
willingness to give one's life into the hands of another. It is necessary
that A be convinced that B is in possession of knowledge which A himself
does not have. It is also necessary that B herself be perceived (if not
overtly present herself) as dominant in some way; as someone entitled to
take some form of authority in A's life. (Again, it does not have to be a
therapeutic relationship. B could say she was A's mentor in a previous
life, for instance, or someone who's known about him for centuries.)
Perhaps it is now easier to understand why I am so bitterly opposed to the
idea that 'MPD is a disorder of memory'.
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