... political resources & controversies
Title: 10,000 Dresses
Author: Marcus Ewert
Publisher: Seven Stories, Nov. 2008
Bailey's been having some amazing dreams about beautiful dresses. She visits a palace with dresses made of stars, flowers, ribbons -- some even have windows to faraway lands and other worlds. But when Bailey tries to share her vision, nobody wants to hear it. "You shouldn't be dreaming about dresses -- you're a BOY." What's a girl in a boy's body to do?
Support also needs to happen for little boys who like "girl" things and girls who like "boy" things without being either gay or transgendered. There are boys who happen to like pink tutus and mermaids, and girls who like tool boxes and powerful action heroes. Is that really outside the realm of psychiatric reality?
Title: My Princess Boy
Author: Cheryl Kilodavis
Publisher: Aladdin 2010
Go to the Kilodavis family's website for much more.
Drop the Barbie! Does your little girl play with fire trucks? Does your little boy like to collect pink ponies and wear nail polish? Should we leave the kid alone and let him become the next Johnny Weir? According to your friendly neighborhood shrink, your child has a mental disease! He's gender-atypical! (or, more kindly, "childhood gender nonconformity"). Traditionally, these kids are institutionalized, drugged and conditioned in sometimes brutal programs to cure them of something called Gender Identity Disorder.
A 'Real Boy' and Not A Sissy A history of the psychiatric view of gender and masculinity. Extremely revealing.
Michelle Dawson (the autism advocate): ABA Treatment for "Gender Disturbed" Children This treatment was part of the UCLA Feminine Boy Project. These "feminine boys" were supposedly suffering in terrible pain. (Well, from being bullied, yeah...) So did Ivar Lovaas (yes, THAT Ivar Lovaas) do research on bullying or try to change society to accept "feminine" boys? Nooooo. The answer was to put them through Alex's aversive behavior conditioning in A Clockwork Orange. This is not for the squeamish.
Idat: Massacre of the Soul Thoughts on the Columbine killings
Jello Biafra: HELLBURBIA (AUDIO LINK) - A look at the Columbine killings. What was the truth behind the media babbling about video games, black trenchcoats and Marilyn Manson?
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Jello Biafra explains that he could have been profiled as a school shooter, judging by the profiles created by law enforcement after the fact. Kasiya^Sukey talks about this in It Could Have Been Me. How many young people recognize the reasons for Columbine, and for Cho Seung-Hui's actions at Virginia Tech even if they would never emulate them?
Mindfreedom's Cho Seung-Hui collection There was a lot more to Seung-Hui's life and what led to the Virginia Tech murders than you were ever told.
How to create a school shooter It should be no surprise.
Fear the Geek Dan Savage talks about the evils that have always existed in high schools, and suggests these school shootings might bring them to light.
Prof. Jenkins Goes to Washington This is the story of how a mild mannered MIT Professor ended up being called before Congress to testify about "selling violence to our children".
The Untouchable Mean Girls The death of Phoebe Prince. By the way, the young women who hounded her to her death got off with a year's probation and community service.
Tell Us What Happened Why classmates are afraid to speak up about what happened to Phoebe Prince.
David Oaks: I Was A College Student Mental Patient Reflections on youth, psychiatric labeling, and the catastrophe at Virginia Tech. "I'm 51 when I write this. Between between the ages of 19 and 21 I was locked up five times in psychiatric institutions while I was attending Harvard..."
More on boot camps for kids here - Torturing Teens for Fun and Profit Cruelty, sadism, injury & death in locked residential facilities for so-called 'troubled' youth. Define 'troubled' -- many of these kids get locked up for such crimes as bad grades, black nail polish or investigating non-Christian religions.
Title: Help At Any Cost
Author: Maia Szalavitz
Publisher: Riverhead, 2006
"For $2,000 a month and more, a program will take an oppositional teen to a lockdown facility or a wilderness boot camp for however long it takes to break him or her. Parents pay more than an Ivy League tuition for their children to undergo some "out-of-line" punishments (use of "stress positions," brainwashing, etc.), and, says Szalavitz, there's no evidence that these facilities cure anything. Indeed, many teens suffer post-traumatic stress disorders for years; some actually die in these facilities... These hugely profitable businesses are largely unregulated by legal, medical or ethical codes, avoiding accountability for failure by blaming the victim."
Services & Resources for Abuse Survivors
The FAQ for alt.sexual.abuse.recovery Might be useful even if the group is long dead.
Asarian International "Encouraging and assisting all survivors of childhood sexual abuse to move from victim, to survivor, to thriver."
You should also see Deliver Us From Evil if you can.
SANCTUARY: Safe Network Community, The Underground Abuse Resource was begun as an online forum on spousal abuse, it's open not only to all abuse survivors but to friends and supportive family. It is run as a MUD (Multi-User Dimension), and is essentially a very large, complex set of chat rooms and bulletin boards.
Title: For Your Own Good:
Hidden Brutality in Child-Rearing,
and the Roots of Violence
Author: Dr. Alice Miller
If you think you were never abused, read this book. Most people do suffer some form of physical, emotional or intellectual brutality in childhood. People who are acknowledged by society to have been abused tell horrific battle stories. Those of us who were "merely" slapped, spanked, and bullied as children are thus inclined to overlook our experiences as trivial. Most child abuse goes under the sobriquet of parental discipline. It affects our thoughts and feelings in later life, often in subtle ways we don't even notice. "It made me stronger" often simply means "it made me numb". This is not a whiny book, nor is it a Bradshaw feel-good hugfest. Child abuse exists and chances are you've been through it. Don't revisit it on your kids. And the next time someone says "You think you had it tough" and starts talking about some publicized extreme case, show them this book.
What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Weaker Modern psychiatry is finally starting to get some sense about this.
This book is now available in its entirety on line. Click here to read For Your Own Good in free e-text.
Title: These Stolen Flowers
A Rape Awareness Book: Poetry and Ideas For Avoiding and Overcoming Rape.
Author: Patty Moskos Publisher: AuthorHouse 2010
Artist Moskos wrote this after a conference in New Mexico describing the difficult experiences of rape victimization. The book includes space for the reader to write in their own thoughts and ideas, a self-help section on rape avoidance, and advice on overcoming rape experiences. Even though this is really for adult women, it might be useful to victims of child sexual abuse.
A Life After Trauma, based on her Facebook community, will consist of "listings of online support groups, meet ups, conferences, helpful websites, phone apps, books, blogs and tools for you to use to begin to move past your trauma."
Many Voices folded after the death of founder Lynn& Wasnak. (See below for Lizabeth's planned memorial to Lynn... you can be part of it.) All back issues of the Many Voices newsletter are now available as free PDFs, there will be NO new issues but Lizabeth plans these two new support sites to take the place of Many Voices. Go to Many Voices Press to sign up for email updates.
Founded in 1989, Many Voices was an independent newsletter written BY (not just for) people recovering from child abuse or trauma, dissociative disorder, PTSD or trauma -- multiples and singlets. It was the flagship publication for the voices of abuse survivors and multiples to speak up and be heard.
Lynn's daughter Diane says: "In January 2014, the following was found in minutes from a Board of Directors Meeting dated 9/20/2011. Lynn was nine months into Chemotherapy at this point.
"'ISST-D Liaison. I already contacted our liaison at ISST-D telling her to expect that we will have "contingency plans" to discuss with them.
"'I have had excellent contacts with them since MV began, and if we are not able to keep MV going, (when I am gone), this is the place I want to "take over", even if all they do is make back issues available on the web in perpetuity.' (THEY HAVE! Back issues free online now!)
"Many Voices issues are now the property of The International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation."
Leave a comment about Lynn at the Awareness Center or sign Lynn's memorial guestbook. Lizabeth also plans a memorial for Lynn and you can contribute. Write to Lizabeth at: Holding Space/ PO Box 51552/ Bowling Green KY 42102, or firstname.lastname@example.org. Be sure to include written permission for her to use your submission!
An Open Letter To Parents Considering Intensive Behavioral Therapy For Their Child With Autism Courtesy of Virgynia King. A stinging indictment of behaviorist methods. Applies to all children -- not just autistics. If you feel your child needs therapy, please consider play therapy or some other non-behaviorist method.
This does not just happen to autistics but to children with learning disabilities, or anyone who is considered different. Restraint and murder of 'different' children in our public schools has always happened. There is no law against it.
(Now that you've stopped laughing at the "when we send our children to school, we expect they will be safe from danger" remark, let's proceed.)
No Autistics Allowed Explorations in discrimination against autistics. What are non-autistic people deciding for autistic people? Pay particular attention to Bettelheim's Worst Crime: Autism and the Epidemic of Irresponsibility. OF INTEREST TO ABUSE SURVIVORS.
Also of interest: Ballastexistenz 'Severely autistic' does not mean incapable of thought or expression, nor does it take "years of therapy" in order to train a 'severe autistic' to communicate with the right technology.
|A three-day conference FOR autistic people -- centred around autistic peopleís needs, interests and sensitivities.|
'It is not a disease, it is a way of life' Autscape, an event run by and for autistic people. It's the latest act of a burgeoning autism rights movement. Emine Saner reports on the campaign to celebrate difference, rather than make vain attempts to cure it.
Title: Not Even Wrong: Adventures in Autism
Author: Paul Collins
Publisher: Bloomsbury USA
By the father of a child who may or may not be on the "spectrum" - unique among parental accounts because of its lack of tragedy. Instead of seeing his son as a victim of a horrible devastating illness, Collins saw his son's unique reading and mathematical abilities and his love of computers over people as part of what was right about the kid. He researched history to find individuals who may or may not have been autistic, and to find out just exactly what autism is.
Collins' message is that it's a mistake to try to force we autistics into so called normality. He learns to communicate with his son through picture cards and he finds an autistic program in a school where the children are allowed to learn through their own special interests. Simply letting autistic people be autistic is such a revolutionary idea! But it may well be the future.
If you are interested in books by autistic authors, try Amanda Baggs' Autistic Authors Booklist.
Astraea differentiates issues of Abuse Survivorship from those of Multiple Personality. Read our statement to find out why. If you want to read about multiple personality, go to our Multiple Personality page.
Child's Play Think it all started with D&D?
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